“So she named the Lord who spoke to her: “You are El-Roi.” For she said, “In this place have I actually seen the one who sees me?” Genesis 16:13 CSB
If you spend very much time on social media sites and particularly online “support group” type outlets, you have probably seen the “I see you” memes that get shared around. I’m referring to the ones that are “woman to woman, mom to mom, battered wife to battered wife.” Various versions each meant to encourage and embolden those who are walking through a particular struggle. Having received a few of those versions in my in-box, I can say I have been delighted and grateful.
As I sit here in my writing space that occupies a corner of our master bedroom, I know that I need much, much more than that right now. I have just finished crying for the third or fourth time in about 48 hours. For many women, Mother's Day weekend can be THE toughest weekend all year. I’m not speaking exclusively to adoptive moms this time. Personally speaking, Mother’s Day was difficult long before becoming an adoptive mom.
So to whom am I speaking and why? Well, after spending a whole lot of time praying and crying while walking until I ran out of trails, praying and crying while driving until I ran out of road, and praying and crying into my pillow until I ran out of tears; I have come away knowing that I am not the only woman who needs to hear what I am about to share.
God Sees You. God, the creator of all things, sees you. God. Sees. You! Below you will find the words that were flowing from above deep into my soul. I pray you will be blessed, and encouraged, and maybe even a little more healed than you were when you woke up today.
God Sees You
To the young woman whose mother was taken away far too soon God Sees You.
To the woman whose mother was hateful and harmful God Sees You.
To the woman who is still waiting for the “perfect” mate to start a family God Sees You.
To the woman who sits fully aware that she is the only childless woman in the room God Sees You.
To the woman whose babies have gone straight from your womb into heaven God Sees You.
To the woman whose child left earth long before he was supposed to God Sees You.
To the woman who declines invitations to baby showers because you know you’ll cry God Sees You.
To the woman who has spent every last possible dime on failed fertility procedures God Sees You.
To the woman who feels she can not bear one more well-meaning platitude God Sees You.
To the woman whose partner at Bunco is angry about being pregnant AGAIN God Sees You.
To the woman whose closest friend has children and tartly says, “Do you want mine?” God Sees You.
To the woman whose adopted child is unable or unwilling to accept you as mother God Sees You.
To the woman who has had to bring friendships to a close to protect her family God Sees You.
To the woman who stays home when she is bruised by her violent child God Sees You.
To the woman who tries and fails at bonding with her new husband’s children God Sees You.
To the woman who has been scolded and belittled for not loving her child enough God Sees You.
To the woman who feels like everyone else knows better than you how to parent your kids God Sees You
To the woman whose children have grown and left but never call again God Sees You
To the woman who FILL IN THE BLANK God Sees You
God sees. We may not understand why the God who sees does not intervene, but understand this, my fellow females…God sees you. And sometimes at the end of a really hard day, all I have the strength to pray is, God, I know you see me. Help me see you.”
You are seen. You are loved.